Linda and I were discussing our minimalist journey to date and we agreed that our biggest takeaway has been learning to ignore peer pressure in order to live the life we envisioned for ourselves. However well-meaning even our families have been, we realized the need for us to focus on our dreams no matter how we were misunderstood by others. And suffice it to say that not caring what other people think of you and your plans can be incredibly liberating.
There is a thought-provoking scripture that speaks to this very point as it urges readers: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” In other words, our belief systems determine whether or not we will simply “go along to get along” with other world views. And as it relates to our leasing lifestyle of “living large with less,” not everyone agrees with or supports it, and that is okay, at least with us.
“People want you to want what they want. If you want the same things they want, then their want is validated. If you don’t want the same things, your lack of wanting can, to certain people, come across as judgment,” author Ann Patchett writes. “How I came not to care about other people’s opinions is…I was born with a compass…This compass has been incalculably beneficial for writing—for everything, really—and for that reason I take very good care of it.”
“As we grow older, we shouldn’t acquire more, but rather strip things away to find our true selves—and thus, peace…What I need to do, in effect, is stop seeing my life as a canvas to fill, and start seeing it more as a block of marble to chip away at and shape something out of,” suggests writer Arthur Brooks. “I need a reverse bucket list [emphasis mine]. My goal for each year of the rest of my life should be to throw out things, obligations, and relationships until I can clearly see my refined self in its best form.”
So, I dare you to define your life’s dream and then pursue it with passion, realizing that naysayers may come and go, but desire prevails. Rather than striving to see how many items you can pack onto a typical bucket list before you die, consider going for quality over quantity, and intentionally limiting your list to truly satisfying experiences. If your journey is at all like ours has been, one day you may realize the life you dreamed of is the one you are living!